Updated: Nov 16, 2021
A good relationship adds to existing happiness in your life. It lets you enjoy your work, activities, and life beyond just the relationship. You shouldn’t always be worrying about their actions or reactions. Like a well-maintained machine, you shouldn’t have to keep on repairing it. Even though there might be disagreements and arguments, there should still be enough goodwill towards each other to resolve conflicts and go back to a loving state.
Here are some relationship issues you definitely shouldn’t ignore:
1. Completely stopped fighting
While fighting too much in a relationship is an obviously bad sign, having no more arguments or debates of any sort can be even worse. It can show that neither of you is really invested in your relationship anymore. Co-existing can be the ultimate silent killer. Becoming indifferent towards problems instead of fighting for a change or improvement can be a sign that the relationship is about to end.
2. Financial infidelity
Financial issues can be just as important as emotional or physical issues in a relationship. If you or your partner have started hiding certain spending habits, it can point towards a larger divide in the relationship. Whether you’re secretly maxing out your credit card or covertly setting cash aside, it can show that your financial goals are significantly different than your partner’s. This is a major sign of a troubled relationship.
3. Differing major values
Having unaligned core values at the time that you met may not have seemed like a major issue back then, but after a few months or years, the incompatibility can be at the forefront of your mind. Perhaps you had hoped they’d change over time or with your love, and they’ll eventually want to get married or move overseas for a new job like you wanted. But love alone can rarely change a person’s core values, and falling in love with someone’s potential can become painful for both of you in the end.
4. Lack of trust
Any relationship, romantic or otherwise, is built on a solid foundation of trust. If you can’t even go to the grocery store without your partner getting suspicious, there’s clearly a problem. Things like not giving a proper answer of who you’re actually texting or not validating your partner’s emotions can chop away at the trust until it’s broken.
Whether you deal with trust issues or have reason to believe that your partner is being unfaithful or doesn’t love you anymore, you need to get to the bottom of it to escape from the stress. Everyone deserves to feel safe and loved in a relationship, so don’t be scared of getting help.
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If you feel like your relationship is exhibiting any of the above signs or more, Stem Wellness’s highly experienced mental health therapists can help you manage your issues with your partner. Come in for a mediated heart-to-heart talk where you can be open about your emotions and needs. Our services include psychotherapy counseling using CBT and EFT, marriage or relationship counseling, individual therapy, and family therapy in New Jersey.
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